Starved Stuff

There are two divorces every minute in the United States. Think about that, in the time it took you to read to this point several people are about to dissolve their family. The life they built together.

Their relationships were neglected, malnourished, and ultimately starved. It doesn’t have to be that way.

Nourish YOUR relationship with the STARVED marriage workshops. Learn the skills and tools you need to prevent your relationship from falling into neglect.

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Has Prince Charming lost his charm.

Do you ever wonder what happened to your Princess bride?

The girl who only had eyes for you and showered you with attention and affection.

What happened to “and they lived happily ever after?” Where did it go?

Let me tell you the rest of the Story….Happily ever after does not happen without some skills and tools. You don’t need magic pixie dust, you need a relationship built of a foundation of common values and safety rules. You need some good communication skills and to know how to connect with one another. You need to know when and how to change and be flexible. It is easy to create this framework in the Feeding the STARVED Marriage workshops.

So you feel like you are falling out of love? Well you can’t! Because you don’t fall into love you cultivate love. You grow love.

Have You Tried Everything and Still No Change?

After the stress of marriage has gone on for years you have undoubtedly tried a variety of ways to fix the problems. First you probably talked to each other and committed to change your behavior only to see it last for a couple of weeks. Then you probably sought help from a church leader, parent, friend or other trusted counselor. Maybe your read some books. Maybe you have even tried traditional therapy but still have not found the success you were searching for. There is still no lasting change. If this sounds like your approach to improving your marriage then you have come to the right place. One of the reasons that traditional approaches to improving marriages tend to fail is because couples don’t focus on root issue. You see, most marriages are STARVED, meaning that virtually every marriage struggles at one time or another with the exact same seven unmet needs.

S Safety – Do you feel safe with your spouse? Do they feel safe with you? We’re talking physically, financially, emotionally, intellectually, and spiritually safe?

T Trust – Do you feel trusted by your spouse? Does your spouse feel your trust?

A Appreciation – Do you feel appreciated by your spouse? Does your spouse feel your appreciation?

R Respect – Do you feel respected, honored by your spouse? Does your spouse feel your honor, respect?

V Validation – Do you feel validated, understood by your spouse? Does your spouse feel validated and understood by you?

E Encouragement – Do you feel encouraged by your spouse? Are you your spouse’s biggest cheerleader?

D Dedication – Do you feel dedication from your spouse? Does your spouse feel your commitment?

If you answered NO to two or more of these questions, your marriage is showing signs of starvation – meaning that you and your partner are lacking some very basic needs, including feeling mutual safety, trust, appreciation, respect, validation, encouragement, and dedication. But don’t worry all is not lost

Most marriages at one time or another are STARVED.

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And the problem with being STARVED is that you usually end up starving those around you. As a STARVED couple, you probably suffer stress consistently about money, ineffective communication, lack of understanding, children, sex, work schedules, home chores, in-laws etc. etc. etc.

Our coaching approach focuses on helping the couple create successful solutions to their problems and developing healthier habits. Our guaranteed success comes from the following the five key components of , solutions, skills, habits, objectivity and accountability.

Solutions – The happiest relationships come from couples who effectively work on solutions instead of those who focus solely on their problems. To this end, Feeding the STARVED marriage takes the approach of helping couples identify solutions that show both partners that the “marriage” is working again.

Skills – Once we help you build some solutions that work, we coach you on a variety of proven skill and tools to manage your relationship issues.

Habits – Almost without exception, couples say that they can improve their relationship for short periods of time only to fall into the same old patters again. The key to a productive and lasting relationship is to turn skills and rules into habits. The coaching process is designed to instill habits that are based newly acquired solutions and knowledge.

Objectivity – A relationship coach offers a set of objective eyes which afford an ability to reset boundaries of your point of view and help you see things in a more positive, healthy way. By doing so, we are able to help you get to the heart of the real issues and make positive changes in how you relate to each other.

Accountability – One of the greatest benefits of relationship coaching is the fact that a coach can hold you and your spouse accountable for the commitments you make to each other. No more excuses or up and downs. The accountability that come with the coaching program helps you develop solid habits and see dramatic changes in your relationship.